thanks all.

I know what you are saying about forcing the book-smart upon him, but I am not. I spend a lot of time working on his social skills with his cousins, friend's kids and at the park with strangers, he has always been around other children so there is no good reason why his social skills are 'poor' except that he cannot relate to children with an average IQ, he copes well with his bright cousin, and is wonderful with small children, because he understands them, but kids his own age are mainly totally different to him, and he doesn't understand what they want in a friend or what kind of things they are in to. He loves to talk about and read about rocks and minerals, they are totally not interested in that sort of thing, they want to chat about TV shows, but he gets bored watching most things, he only really enjoys watching TV when he is playing with construction toys at the same time, and even then he prefers cookery shows, history programs or animal documentaries.

My health will be ok, he only gets one childhood and I am lucky enough to share it with him, I want him to be able to choose to do the things he likes and focus on a positive future. He has a lot of self control, and we do tai chi together to aid this, I think he gets somewhat anxious sometimes too, but once he has done tai chi with me in the morning he calms down and settles well, until he is at school.