My first therapist really helped me with this issue where men were concerned. He made being angry at him completely acceptable and never seemed like he wanted anything from me. Hell, he didn't even seem to really expect or need me to feel better. He told me up front that therapy was going to make me feel worse. LOL! He never let me use people pleasing skills or sex to try to get him to like me (he was gay, so the whole sex thing to manipulate or get him to like me was out the door from the beginning).

I still had (and sometimes HAVE) issues relating to women, but therapy really gave me a "corrective emotional experience" with relating to men.