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Originally Posted by mcl6136
My therapy has morphed again from dealing with my deep, tough issues into a coaching function...sort of like my T is a life coach these days!
I feel kind of funny that things are taking this turn, but honestly right now I don't want to go into the "big stuff" but want to walk into my Ts office and say...I made it to my exercise class this weekend. (gold star). I finished my year-end financials at work (silver star). I told that bad friend goodbye....and asked about a raise....gee, I'm setting goals and carrying them out and it feels pretty good.
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I told my T last time that I had some new things I wanted to discuss with him at our next session. They are along the lines of life coaching issues, which I didn't share with him. He and I have never worked on this type of issue before. I wonder if he will consent to it? And how can he help? He is not a life coach but a therapist, so will he even allow this, or will he say, sorry I can't help with that kind of thing? mcl6136, you described telling your T about your successes of triumphs on the small stuff, like going to exercise class. It's great to share your successes, but are you actually working on these things during your sessions, or just telling him how well you've been doing? If you are working on these issues in therapy, what does that look like? What does a T do or say in session to help you go to exercise class? I'm just not sure what "work" on such issues looks like.
Some of the issues I would like to work on in my life are exercising more and losing weight. I don't see how T can help... I was thinking maybe I could use our very close relationship, which is rewarding to me, to help motivate me to exercise and lose weight. Like I would not allow myself to see T for a new session unless I had lost X number of pounds. Even something like 1-2 lbs loss required for a therapy session might set me going in the right direction. I don't know--is that stupid? I just can't think how else therapy could help with this unless I use it as a reward/motivator.
I have other non-exercise/health "mundane" issues too that I would like his help with...
Maybe I need a coach... Maybe I need more competency in my life...
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Originally Posted by mcl6136
right now, I am using my therapy as a way to place a stake in the ground, then see if I can run up and ....
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Could you explain what you mean by this? I don't understand.
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Originally Posted by mcl6136
this feels like the right way to proceed, and it seems to be working and even FUN!
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Would love to hear more about this type of therapy. Can you describe what you do in therapy that is working and is fun?