One of the important questions each of us has to consider is are we going to give up the rest of our lives to the abusers and what we experienced in our past? We all know that none of us can go back and change our past. The only thing any of us can do is allow ourselves to "LEARN" from our past and "ALLOW" ourselves to continue on with our lives.

Someone just presented me with food for thought yesterday, something I hadn't really considered. This person said that each one of us is on a life journey were we have to learn many things. This person told me to consider the things that I have learned thus far and the course my life path has taken me in ways that I could have not predicted or even controled in many cases. I was told to consider that I am on my own journey and other people that have crossed my path, even those that have abused me, are also on their own path where they to learn things as well. I cannot learn for others, I can only learn for myself. I have to understand that my life journey is a journey of my own where I will be presented with situations where I will have to make decisions and will learn from each decision and every outcome. And the fact that I am human means that I wont do everything perfect, but because I am human, I will learn from everything I address in my life.

For those here that continue to embrace a troubled past, how can you find your way to saying to yourself. " I am on my own journey and it has been a troubled one, the only person that I can help is me by my willingness to learn and continue my life even though there are things in my past that are not pleasant or even fair. And even though there have been bad people in my past, I will realize that these other people are on their own life path and whatever bad they do, they will be forced to face the consequences as well. And I can only live my own life and make a decision to continue to learn as much as I can and make efforts to continue forward. My life is separate from the abuser and my abuser will eventually suffer his/her own fate."

My heart goes out to all here that have met up with any kind of abuser that has caused harm to them. My hope for each of us is to "LEARN" to continue on our life path and find ways to enjoy our children, and our lives without allowing our past to continue to block today and tomarrow and the rest of our lives.

((((Hugs))))
Open Eyes