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Old Dec 12, 2011, 04:31 PM
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Originally Posted by sweepy62 View Post
wow u have clarified that so much for me thank you i now realize that my inner child came out in therapy last week as i was talking a little bit about childhood trauma but why didnt my t tell me?
Maybe she didn't know. It might have been kind of presumptuous and perhaps even dismissive for her to say "oh that's your inner child." Next time, you sense your inner child coming out, how about if you tell her?

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why didnt she say i was going through transference? answer back please
Again, maybe she didn't know. Plus a lot of Ts aren't into interpreting everything through the lens of transference. Sometimes it can be a dismissive stance, something the T says to distance himself/herself from emotions the client expresses that make him/her uncomfortable. So I don't think it's a bad thing your T doesn't talk a lot about transference. How about if you ask her what she thinks of transference? Then tell her you might have been having some when you said/felt/thought X, and see what she says? There are lots of interpretations of a client's words/behavior. Sometimes having the client tell the therapist, instead of vice versa, is a good approach.

I think I've only talked twice about transference with my T, and I've been seeing him for over 3 years.
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