Adelissa,

Yes, you are in a pickle.

It's good to see that your battle with cancer has been a success! Sorry about the loss of your mom and being stuck in deadstill family dynamics. I can understand deep depression very well, been there a few times myself.

It would be healthy to get out of the house ~ but if you aren't ready for that step (which is a big one), then you simply aren't ready. Perhaps you should look into receiving county assistance, to help you manage the house and their illnesses a little easier. Is anyone in the family working, or able to work?

I think that getting everyone into a family therapy would be tough ~ especially if they aren't seeing individual counselors, for their own issues. I guess that I would start with encouraging your brother and father to see T's, to help them battle their depressions. I'd also check to see if your family could receive assistance of some kind, through the county or state, to help manage healthy living more easily.

Hopefully, your neice is doing okay. Does she work with anyone regularly? In or out of school? I don't know much about autism, other than a few quick facts: more common with boys than girls, there are different degrees of autism (and girls typically have less severe degree than boys), and a genetic component is suspected to be cause for autism.

Hope that my post has helped you in some way. Very best wishes sent your way!