I hear what you all are saying, I really do. I am just not ready to move out, and I see progress in how my brother at least treats me, I feel like I am learning boundaries and making my needs known and giving real consequences if they aren't. I also feel to a certain extent that this is my home and they are living with me instead of vice versa, and the landlord sees it that way as well, I am the name on the lease, and the one she deals with. I have been able to open communication with my brother and I feel I am making headway to making him understand that I can't and won't do it all and shouldn't have to, my niece as far as I am concerned is my child and wherever she goes I go. My Dad is the biggest issue as far as something that is completely beyond me. He doesn't do a bit of housework aside from taking out the trash occasionally or check the mail and 9 times out of 10 that is with prodding. He is only 68 but he sees himself retired from life I think. I am surprised sometimes he doesn't ask me to feed him. I have life goals that I want met before I move out and while there are some that depend on other people I won't wait around forever, I am not that weak, and I don't let them dictate to me. Truth be known I feel like the dictator half the time and I don't like that role, I am more of a lets find common ground kind of person but I find they respond better to firm discipline but I think that is rediculous to a certain extent as they are grown men. As far as my Dad is concerned, if I could afford to, I would be happy to put him in some kind of retirement community where he could get the care he needs (although I think some if not all of his behaviors are by choice rather than true inability to care for himself). The other issue is our apartment is kind of in a weird place right now, as "their" area is the living room, so deciding what is who's responsibility is kind of a gray area, but I realize I have to chose things in life and have ownership of those choices, not just think things happen to me, and I have learned and accepted that. Also everyone is sick right now and I am the only well one physically (mentally is another story but I am doing a pretty good job today at least with my depression symptoms) Anyway, I did have a few sessions with the lead therapist before switching to the trainee so he does have an understanding that I will remain here for the time being and I think his goal is to teach me to live with them in a way that doesn't mean sacrificing all the time. I just get so tired sometimes of dealing with them all day and then dealing with them in therapy, and therapy feels like it should be the place I can relax to a certain degree but I also understand there are times it isn't easy and issues do need to be addressed. (thanks for letting me talk this through)