You are not alone I am right there with you even though I am married.I am new to my area as well & my wife is more concerned with everything else under the sun than our relationship.I feel she no longer needs me anymore now that her 21 year old daughter & her boyfriend live with us.I don't not want her to have a relationship with her daughter,but within reason.I am practically ignored.It hurts sometimes & am lonely most of the time.Hell if I wanted to be alone almost all the time I never would have gotten married.Anyway hang in there & reach out like you have.If you reach out your'e chances of being less lonely steadily increase.