I actually asked my T the question I always wanted to ask, but I didnt get a full answer (i guess her answer may have given away other peoples cases so she was being careful) I asked if when dealing with phobias and stuff like that (as we currently are) how does she cope? hearing about something so often must rub off on her eventually?

she just said it doesnt really effect her, but in the case of my phobia she is alot more aware of it in her surroundings now, when before she didnt really notice but now she does.