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Old Apr 25, 2006, 09:57 PM
Anonymous29319
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Im sorry you feel this way
in my 20 year experience with therapy and having 19 therapy professionals over the years I have had many therapists that I felt 100% sure that they did not like me but I recieved the best from them just like I do with those that did and do like me.

Therapists work with many types of people with many types of problems so they have been trained not to bring their personal opinions in to the sessions. Theey are trained to focus on the problems that the client brings into the sessions.

One of the first things that happens during the first few sessions in therapy is the therapist and the client talking about why the client feels they need to be in therapy, what they hope to get out of therapy and goals are set around the problems that the client has and ways the client can accomplish the goals. no where in those first sessions do the client and the therapist talk to each other about if they like each other or not. those sessions are focused solely on the client their problems and what they hope to get out of therapy. Then in the following sessions the therapist job is to make sure the set goals get worked on by challenging the client to look at all sides of the problem so the client can make choices that will better their life and funtion level.

Many times while therapists were making me look at things I would rather have not talked about, I thought "this therapist is no good, she's not doing what I want, all she's doing is picking at me, she just doesn't like me"

One day I actually asked JEH (one of my counselors) "why do you hate me so much? What did I do to you to make you hate me like this?"

Her answer way I care very much about you which is why I spend all this time pushing you to be and do your best"

Thats when I realized my therapist job isn't to like and please me. Why pay mega bucks for someone to please me when I can get that for free from my friends.

From that day on even when I felt a therapist hated me I knew they were just doing their job and if they were not any good at their job they would not be making me feel and think about things.