did he actually say that this was affecting him in a negative way or was he just kind of letting you know that you didn't need to take care of him and that even if something did affect him negatively that it was OK and that he even welcomed this as a way to work thing out with you together.i think he was trying to reassure you and your habit of thinking about things negatively may have gotten in the way and not allowed this to happen.

therapy is so hard and we read so much into things at times it seems almost imposable.keep moving forward MUE i think you are amazingly brave to share the things that you do.