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Originally Posted by Oxidopamine
I haven't been accused on here of being manipulative but I have often been accused in real life, sometimes with threats. Usually it was when I was intentionally being manipulative, although I have been accused of such when I was not aware. Interestingly, many of those accusations came from the same people, so perhaps I just rubbed them the wrong way without knowing how. When someone does try to manipulate or lie to me, I view it as both entertaining and a warranted chance to do it in return until I get bored or it seems lame at the start, in which case I walk away.
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You know I'm not being myself when no one threatens my life...
Seriously, though... Perhaps you should lay off the manipulation just a wee bit so no one, you know... tries to kill you. Just a suggestion...
I may have the same problem; I probably just rubbed them the wrong way. I do have a tendency to be rather blunt and insensitive, especially with people who I think are bs'ing me. Odd, though, that of all things they could accuse me, they all chose manipulation. Some of my closer friends have also said that I have a tendency to be manipulative.
When people try to manipulate or lie to me, I cross-examine them. And I'm not above badgering a witness. Or I'll take it as an invitation to play a game. Either way, I don't take it seriously. And maybe that's my problem... I'm just manipulative by nature, so some of it may happen out of habit.
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Originally Posted by Lynn P.
No Michael I don't think you should hide who you are.
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Ok. I won't. I suppose I don't have any control over how people react to the information. And it's really not my problem, selfish as that may sound...
Open, thank you for the response and the support. But I know that not all of these accusations can be attributed to the stigma of my diagnosis, and I don't want to lay all the blame on that. Even if they are, I'm trying to get a better understanding of manipulation itself so I can determine if my behaviour is actually manipulative and try to change that behaviour if it is.
And thanks everyone for your responses. I appreciate it.