Maybe it's not WHO but how you feel that makes you what you are.. Try not worrying so much about finding out who you are if you can, because if you let it come to you, it will be much less stressful.
There are some within me that I dont know names, and one goes by many. That one doesn't really have a name either. But we all call her what she means to each of us personally, and what she accepts to be called.
Maybe if it's a name you seek, go through a baby's name thing on the internet and you will be able to find one that jumps out of you and appeals to you. It's alright to adopt that name if you wish. No one can tell you otherwise. It's you who decides who you are..... even if others dont like it.. atleast you can know who you are, and you can move on to the next step of being accepted for who you are.
*huggles*

~Mary