In all honesty Michael it could be simply due to the fact that some people don't know the difference between the two. Some people grow up under parents that may only know how to be manipulative and thus a child learns that to be the only way to get what they want. Not every parent shows their children how to be socially persuasive.

The other thing that I noticed in raising my own daughter is I did try to show her both. But I tried more to teach her how to be socially persuasive. She got to see how to do that by helping me in my business, she was lucky to able to experience that. However one cannot prevent a child from witnessing other children gain by manipulation, and once they learn, the parent often becomes a testing ground.
To my daughters dismay, it never worked on me. I didn't allow it, but because of that, as an adult she has experienced more successes by social persuasion, but by using her intellegence and knowledge, not for deceipt. In all honesty, I think social persuasion is more intelligent and much more appreciated and respected.

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