thats what happens! i set boundaries and then she feels rejected. and then i feel bad for making her feel that way. she does get very clingy; she knows that. she calls it pushing and pulling. she pushes her friends until they are on the brink of not being able to handle the situation anymore, then reels them back in. i finally just had to stop talking to her. a mutual friend pulled her aside and asked her if she had any clue what it was doing to me......tons of txts, emails, voicemails, demanding my time. im pretty close to rock bottom right now and i like to have space- but to know my friends are there. we check in with each other. ive never acted out- only acted in. i kind of feel like a zombie. ive always cut. im struggling with making something else come out instead of blood- art and i want to start writing poetry again. but its SO hard and i feel like an empty shell and a burden to my loved ones. but back to my (ex?)friend....i just had to say stop