Sometimes you get to a point with people - for me, it was my mom - where you realize you have a choice - it's YOU or THEM - only one of you is going to survive if you keep doing what THEY say, what they want. That's when you ALSO realize, they don't know it's that bad, they think you're just complaining, or you're mad because you're not getting your own way. You are desperate, but they are not, because you are taking care of them. It's so hard. I'm sorry you went thru this. I hope you will be stronger for having had the experience.