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Originally Posted by princecharming
This girl is not that interested in you. She might like you the most at the moment, but as soon as a better offer comes around, she is going to leave. Why else would she be maintaining a relationship with a prior boyfriend? This happens all the time. She is changing the name on the phone because she wants to hide this from you, but she cannot bring herself to tell him that she loves someone else and wants to have an exclusive relationship. She does not like you enough to do this.
I personally will never date a smoker again. When you get into a relationship, you need to look at the person and all of their flaws, then ask yourself can I live with these flaws? If you cannot, you need to move on and keep looking. Smoking, drinking child rearing and money can be deal breakers in a relationship. I believe that other things can be negotiated.
You need to be careful about how you surprise women. If your surprises seem like an invasion or scary in any conceivable way, you will turn them off forever. They will simply write you off as desperate, clingy, untrusting, creepy….you get the idea.
Good luck with this one, it seems like their might already be too much sewage under the bridge.
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Well she stopped talking to her ex when we had a talk, which was a few months ago and she actually wasn't changing the name on the phone, rather it was a caller-id feature, which I looked into and its actually real HAHA. So she said she won't talk to him and stuff.
I think its more about her smoking and I want the best for her and she should stop smoking. But every time I say something, she says I am taking her independence away by telling her not to do it. She has made that a big deal. I mean I want her to be healthy for herself and for us. I don't see a reason why someone would just make it a big deal. Maybe I should play nice guy and ask her to stop in a different way?
I just don't get it. Maybe you guys are right, maybe we just aren't meant to be and I need to slowly start letting go. I haven't contacted her and I won't be anytime soon. Rather I'm gonna let her contact me. If we are able to patch things and give it one more shot, should I lay down how we should communicate with each other or what? Cause when we started dating, I told her that I am not into people that smoke and at that time she promised me she will quit and she did for about 2 months. She broke the promise and started smoking again during this trip. She didn't tell me she wanted to smoke, rather she did it and told me after. What do you guys think I should do or react?
Thanks