Sally, you're totally doing the right thing, and experiencing the right things, and I completely get how you must feel. I wouldn't necessarily say that if he enjoys sex with a man your relationship is over. I mean, he enjoys sex with you, too, right? If he enjoys sex with you, as your husband, it doesn't much matter what else he might enjoy because you're in a monogomous relationship. I may enjoy sex with a woman or with someone/something else but it wouldn't matter because, I enjoy sex with my husband, and he's all I get anyways. Does that make sense? Anyways, best wishes. I think your relationship is very strong and mature since you're both being so accepting and embracing eachother through this. I hope you can continue handling it as you have been, come what may. Keep us posted please!