Hi

I've felt angry at a friend of my wifes who cared for our troubled, angry 16 year old while he had become very difficult at our home. He is an Aspergers kid and he was perseverating on some issues he had with my wife and myself. She encouraged him to remain angry and betrayed the trust of my wife. He became so out of control that he had knife ready to use as a weapon. He made homicidal threats also. The state intervened and he went into crisis. My wife offered to meet with her ex-friend with her doctor to find some common ground, but the friend refused. My wifes friend will speak to my wife no longer. While all this was going on my wife was going in and out of the hospital with stage 4 renal disease. She is in the hospital right now having surgery.

I have to think of my wifes friend from her perspective to deal with my anger. She has had brain cancer twice. Her father has just died from old age. She is the main caretaker of her elderly mother. She is financially challenged. She can't drive and lives in the wilderness. She has no partner to help her in life. I believe that she "snapped" and it had little to do with us. She raised 2 daughters and must understand the teenage years.

I can deal with the anger but it still hurts and I'm very tired...

Peace, A.