I sure would sit down with my husband and have a talk with him. generalize why you do not want your future children in the presence of a pedophile as incest is not a far jump. you do not need to break the secret with our sister in law as he has a record with the 13year old. tell your husband how scared and angry and disgusted you feel. you have to be true to your feelings and comfort level. I agree with your feelings against your father in law, by the way. just reassure your husband that it is not his adult his father is what his father is. you do not hold the sins of the father against the son so to speak. by the same token, I think deep down I would always be watching my husband around our children knowing the kind of home he grew up in...secretive family abuse and incest. your husband may not remember things he knows as his brain protects him from the ugly truth. I say this as a friend of mine is a survivor and her brother claims all was peachy keen when he was involved. tread lightly, but be cautious. best of luck to you. sorry you are dealing with these issues.


Sloane