Hrmm I do need some input for this particular bothersome situation but I feel a bit of history will help to make it clear why this is a problem for me.

December last year, my ex-girlfriend and I of three years broke up - it was a particularly messy break up with 3rd, even 4th parties involved, and it was a nightmare. Especially considering I had undiagnosed BPD & bipolar. I went insane, it's safe to say after we broke up - I was a danger to myself and everyone around me, not to mention completely unmedicated. I had my first manic episode in January, and it lasted a month. I didn't know at the time it was mania, nor that I would even qualify for a diagnoses of bipolar. My diagnoses of bipolar and BPD are only in their infancy, being assessed only 2 months ago by a psychiatrist. My psychologist recommends I don't have a relationship for at least a year while I heal.

Onto the next part.

There is someone at my work that I'm interested in; we're a part of a small office, only housing maybe 17 people at a time, but we're like a big family nonetheless. Anyway, my object of interest is a male, and usually I prefer females, so when a guy comes along that I'm interested in, it always piques my interest as to why. But my last relationship was born and bred in my last workplace, which was ultimately a complete disaster. Also, what my psychologist said never leaves my mind; I'm okay being single, but I get unbelievably lonely; however, once I start having feelings for someone, the obsessive side of my BPD rears its ugly head and sinks its claws in. I'm in some sort of limbo right now, so I don't really want to mess around with it, but I also don't want to be alone for so long..

This post probably makes absolutely no sense but I would like some opinions of what you would do in this situation. (Please feel free to ask questions for clarification if you're so inclined.)

Thanks to anyone who read this whole thing.