Rainbow thanks for your wonderful post. I still struggle over thinking I should learn to wear makeup better at age 40. Just bought some more to try last week. When I was growing up I didn't have money for much makeup or clothes, had really bad skin, didn't know how to do my hair like the other girls, and generally felt ugly. Mom didn't help me and Dad thought it was sacreligious (I'm exaggerating a little) to spend money on clothes. Feminism helped make it more acceptable to look natural in college. I definitely identify with what you said about still feeling bad about not fitting in. It's getting better, but it hasn't gone away. I wonder if it's possible for society to not leave so many teenagers feeling like that. I think it probably is, but there'd be long way to go.