Doctors and therapists want to help us but if they are not able to, for whatever reason, then it is a waste of their time and our money to go to them. They have as much right to work on whatever is fulfilling to them in their lives as we have to work or not work on what we choose to in our own lives. If they believe X, Y, or Z will help us and we don't, there is no point to staying with that helper; that wouldn't be very helpful to either party.