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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
I gave up on anorectic friend. I tried, really tried, but she turned full on nasty on me, telling me constantly how ugly I am, how I am stupid and weird and bad. Had enough issues at the time.
She went through a rough period of drugs, being kicked out of High school, bad relationships. Watched it from far away. People wondered how this "wonderful girl" could turn out so badly. I knew already, because I got to see that from painfully close.
So it depends. One has to protect themselves. It is stupid and selfish to drop somebody because of label... but if they are draining you and bring nothing to you... should you be expected to put others first?
(often people just drift appart and MI is not a reason.... we just tend to view it that way).
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I believe that if a friend is only hurting you or bringing you down, then you have every right to distance yourself. It's not so much giving up on them, because they're not really yours to be giving up on. Sure you might try to help them, but ultimately, you are not their treatment center. So if you do distance yourself, it's not like you are giving up helping them, you are simply trying to keep yourself safe and healthy.