I'm so glad you got out of there and so glad you had a friend to talk to. Please don't take anything your father says seriously! He sounds like he has his own troubles and is extremely toxic and abusive!

From every responose I've seen you give on this site you are a great person and fully deserving of life and happiness!

Now that you're 17 can you make the choice to not see your father? I know in the states you can choose to stop visitation at 16, especially if that person is emotionally abusive! You do not need to be put in that situation ever again! My advice is to not speak with him for however long you think you shouldn't, even if that means never again. It sounds like he was terrible to your mom, too. So, I don't see why he deserves the pleasure of your company.