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Thank you so much for your replies.
Yes, I am exhausted. This post was actually from last week; I originally posted it elsewhere but didn't get a response. On another member's suggestion, I reposted here to see if I could get replies. We had another super late night because he threw another fit over something else. I couldn't get to sleep until again around 3am.
Yes, I understand he’s untreated. He thinks he can maintain it on his own without meds or therapy. He thinks the alcohol keeps it under control, but he has episodes even when he’s drinking. I’m not sure if he has mixed, but I know he definitely has both manic episodes and depressive episodes and he cycles FAST. We have some kind of drama at least once a week, if not more. I can’t keep up with it.
The thing that is toughest for me to deal with is his paranoia. Since the beginning in his mind he is absolutely convinced that he sees “red flags” with me all the time, mostly things that indicate I must be talking to other guys. We had another long discussion about it last night and I saw more of the history he has had with previous girlfriends, especially one in particular. He went to therapy with her and had the therapist and the girlfriend’s family all telling him he was delusional but his fears ended up being realized because she really was screwing around on him. So now, his paranoia still runs rampant, daily he says, and he believes it mainly because it ended up being true with his previous girlfriend. At the same time, he admits that he’s never found actual proof of me doing anything dishonest and I’ve given him no reason to not trust me.
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