I agree. It's crossing boundaries, circumventing is a good way of putting it. They should start their own thread if they want to talk about it in mixed company or women only, but that section is set up for men only and should be respected. It's not so much about privacy, after all, it IS the internet, but about respecting each other's boundaries, and feeling respected. Otherwise we may be repeating abusive-type behavior by not listening and not taking the person's feelings seriously.