That's the worst part - realizing there's something you probably can't handle alone. We put such stock in our sense of independence and self-sufficiency sometimes. I really struggle with this at times; being independent and self-contained is so much of my identity that it's a huge blow to my ego when I have to rely on others' help.

Well, I agree with others - I'm pulling for you, and it sounds like you really need to kick the habit. You know it. We know it.

If you think you can handle DIY, maybe you can talk them into it - are there other programs besides a 28-day detox that might be an option? But they probably want you inpatient for a reason. And if it's your health or your job, well, you need your health more! (not to trivialize employment issues, mind you...)

Your work has to give you FMLA time if you request it. I'm not sure if that will cover a whole 4 weeks, though. If not, maybe they will consider some other arrangement - you just got salaried, right? So they have some investment in keeping you around. They might be more flexible than you would expect, but you'd have to have a discussion about it.

Anyway, sorry I can't offer any solutions. It sounds like you're between a rock and a hard place with this. It also sounds like everyone wants what's best for your health and I usually figure that's something worth paying attention to. Sorry it's going so rough for you, but keep on keeping on...