I think there are clearly subjects which people would only feel comfortable talking about with others of their own gender. However, given that there are no "fences" here, it is a tad foolish of this site (and its members) to expect the respective genders to stay neatly within the arbitrary boundaries prescribed for them. Clearly, if you don't want the women members of Psych Central to know you have erectile dysfunction, you should avoid posting this information-or develop an alternate "handle" to air male-unique questions/concerns. In the post you referenced, my question, to men, about their porn obsessions, was an attempt to understand the male perspective and typically, there were few responses. Soon after the fact, I realized that not many of us are about to spill the beans on a public forum, even on a sub-forum devoted entirely to mens issues. So I ceased then to expect any great response, or an abundance of honesty. Those of us who post a lot elsewhere may also not want our image somehow corrupted by anything we might post on the men-only sub-forum. In many cases, the PM seems to be the only logical solution.

Aside from the problematic privacy issues on this site, I think the radical difference in number of posts, between mens and womens, is rather telling, and indicative of how differently we are wired-and particularly how difficult it is for men to articulate problems unique to our gender. Let's face it, women are not only more articulate but also , not surprisingly, benefit more from their ability to talk things through, particularly with other females. We can learn a great deal from them.