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Originally Posted by rainbow8
Part of the jealousy issue is feeling inferior,
When I see my T with makeup, I immediately feel inferior to her and feel ashamed of myself for being so incompetent.
my whole list about never fitting in with people, from childhood on. Like the lipstick represents all the other things I didn't do that my peers were doing: didn't know the current music, didn't wear the right clothes, didn't date in HS, was overqualified for every job I had, didn't have a nice house, and on and on. I flunked fitting in!!!!
shame about feeling/being incompetent and inferior to your peers when growing up?
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Originally Posted by Sannah
Erikson's developmental stage - Competence: Industry vs. Inferiority - Self confidence is developed at this stage, ages 6-12.
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You have been talking about jealousy and you figured out what was underneath and driving that jealousy - you feel inferior. You go on further to explain that you have felt incompetent and like you never fit in. This is what I was impressed with, that you figured out what was really bothering you. It was coming out as jealousy, but you figured out what was underneath it. This is important because this is what you need to work on.
Exploring with your therapist your feelings about your incompetence and feelings of inferiority will really be helpful.
I brought up the developmental stages because I have seen you move through them here this last month. I'm really impressed that you have moved through 2 stages, the infant and then the 3 - 6 yr old Freudian stage and now you are at the 6 - 12 yr. stage. (Isn't it great how quickly you can move through them as an adult!).
Good work Rainbow!!