So sorry you went through that. I had a similar personal experience and I actually screamed in pain. The GYN got mad at for yelling "You're scaring the other people" (they should have been scared). Please remember there are good GYN's out there that won't hurt you.

About talking to you t about what is going on-she can totally handle it. There is nothing inappropriate about what you are discussing. It's simply part of your body. She's a woman as well, and understands these things...

Take care.