Sophia, I understand your concern and if I was younger I would want to study the human brain, as often it truely isn't mind over matter, there is a real disability that needs to be treated, understood and someone truely cannot simply think their way past certain symptoms of MI.

Venus, if someone takes their own life, there is something very wrong with that person, they are clearly overwhelmed with some kind of issue in their brain and it really is important that person gets help. And I can understand how you may be frustrated if you make efforts to help or understand that person and those efforts are fruitless, leaving you somewhat angry/frustrated.

When I went to a psychward in shock, I was treated poorly and further tramatized by that treatment. It was agreed when I was released by a therapist and psychiatrist that I should have never gone there, "it was the wrong place for me" they said. The problem is that I DID go there and it DID cause further psychological duress for me.
The worst thing anyone can do is take someone who was extremely psychologically effected by witnessing a catastophy and place them in another place where they are exposed to a different extreme environment.

If I have learned anything in my life, I have learned that it is important to gain knowledge and an understanding of the human brain and the different things that can present in a patient with real struggles in their thinking and reasoning abilities. It can be every bit like asking or expecting a person with a broken leg to run a marathon. We know what a broken leg means, we know that it is important to make sure the bones in that leg line up and there is a way to address it in which it can heal. We also know that if a person with a broken leg was coersed into running a race anyway, they would cause further harm to that leg, would not be able to truely participate in the race in any normal way, and would only end up in even more pain and possible disability. But, we do not always know or cannot always see the broken or disabled parts of a human brain that can truely prevent someone from running the race in life and often if we insist or that person continues to try, it can result in more pain and damage and disability.

We cannot expect a layman/woman to know all about the parts of the human brain that present troubling behaviors, moods, severe anxiety, sense of exhaustion, etc.
The only thing we can do is continue to identify these issues and in that added understanding, present some kind of aide that may help a patient learn ways to better run that race we call life as effectively as possible.

The one thing I do know is that my brother was born with some kind of disorder/disability. He was older than me and I witnessed him be totally misunderstood and abused in many ways, everywhere he went and I had to see things that were extremely troubling and my whole childhood was that of fear and confusion. Little did I know that the treatment he recieved caused further damage to his young growing brain. What I experienced, all kinds of environments that truely frightened and confused me, was also damaging my young brain. It is actually very hard for me to learn what it did present in my brain. The one thing it did create is a lifetime of being misunderstood for both of us.

As I have a nephew that is autistic and now old enough to be diagnosed with Asbergers. I see a child that at least has the opportunity to be addressed, not in abusive ways (because he does lose it and throws outrageous tantroms like my brother did) but instead he is addressed in ways that can help him learn how to be a part of the race he will run in his life. He is given respect, not abuse.

I am now a 50+ year old woman who suffers from a disorder that I am trying to understand. I am looking back on years of my own efforts to address my own path through life. I see a little girl, a teenager and all the years up until now where I made many efforts to compensate for something that I didn't know I had. Though I did find ways to survive and thrive, it is hard to learn that my brain had been so effected that this event I experienced would somehow be the straw that broke the camels back in ways I never could have imagined. It can be scarey to look at, it is hard to understand and equally hard to learn that it is not easy to just think my way out of my condition. Because I don't just have PTSD, I have a very bad case of it.
I am truely trying to understand and address "REAL" changes in my own brain that
presents real challenges that frighten and confuse me.

Sophia, I understand your concern about giving up on those that truely struggle, that for some reason cannot seem to find a way to run in the race of life somehow. A person can be disordered somehow and not really be aware of it, or can continuously fail in ways that they themselves do not understand. We are still at the mercy of what we DO know about the human brain. However it is clear that we still have much more to learn. In all honesty, I am at the very least grateful that my own struggle with my disorder is recognized enough to at least help me understand that my struggles are not my personal failures and there are reasons why I struggle and am misunderstood, even by myself.

My own life has taught me to have a lot of compassion for those that truely struggle psychologically. It truely isn't fair to lash out at another human being that presents behavioral issues that they do not understand themselves, often feel confused themselves, struggle with weariness as they make efforts to run in their race of life. I personally address some extremely difficult days where I cannot seem to just "think" my way though some kind of a jam in my thought processes. As I struggle often I am met with the reactions of family members and others that are extremely critical and address me in a way that says "Just deal", "Thats life", "Get over yourself", "Forget about it", "Pick yourself up", "I am tired of your issue", "get up and do something about it", "You gotta learn to push yourself", "That was in the past, I don't drink anymore", "accept that your sister is just a contoling person", "stop wining and stand up for yourself", "researching your illness is just allowing yourself to luxuriate in it", and countless other negetive comments.

Personally I have been on both sides, one where I have done my best to be supportive of others who do suffer, and the other side where I myself suffer and I don't want to be a bother to others. I AM trying to learn about what I am addressing, I AM trying to get help. And I DO often feel very inadequate and CAN become extremely exhausted and frustrated and angry WITH MYSELF. And I have had to walk away from some that suffer beyond my capacity to assist. I don't have the answers for someone who simply will not seek help with their issues. It is a very troubling challenge.

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