you need to treat the situation as a possible relapse which means confronting him about the money and possible or probable use of drugs and alcohol. you need to be strong by giving him the option to clean up. if he refuses, you need to have consequences such as leaving with your child until he is in treatment. as we both know from experience, addicts are master manipulators. do not let him talk you out of consequences. he gets clean or you leave. otherwise you become an enabler. I am giving straight talk from NA or AA philosophy. when you confront him, tell him what you know he has been doing rather than just accusing him of relapsing. also, ask him what happened to make him decide to make such a poor decision. this may help you understand what the trigger was. if you know the triggers, you are a step ahead of him.

I am sorry you are in this situation. at this point you need the truth to clarify what you need to do to keep your son and yourself safe. if he starts using cocaine again, it can put you and your son in danger from the psychoactive effects it has like paranoia. I am here to support you as I have beeh there with my brother. you need to be thinking about yourself and your son's welfare over and above your husband's right now, because if he is currently using he is not worrying about your safety or that of his son right now. as I said, and so did you, addicts are great manipulators and will protect their using above all else. I do not mean to sound like I am coming down hard on you. rather, you need to come down on him hard. letting him know what you know prevents him from having the opportunity to lie to you. please keep us posted on what happens. much love and light sent your way. take care and be well. stay safe. feel free to PM me about this if you do not feel like posting. I have been in your shoes and lived the roller coaster of addiction long enough to understand.


Sloane