Hi,

If she is having health issues with the apartment, like allergies(?), then I think that is a problem for both of you, if you both want to continue being partners, which I'm assuming that you both are. If your starting to imagine or suspect that she is saying mean things about you, I think you need to check that out with her before you decide that it is true. Maybe she isn't saying mean things at all, and it is just your imagination playing tricks on you. If she is saying mean things about you, I think you two might need to discuss that, maybe with a therapist. Losing control of your angry emotions is very dangerous. I find that communicating helps me keep my anger and fears manageable. I hope you two can work this out in a constructive way

Peace, A.