I'm sorry that this person is stringing you along. I know how it feels, I'm on the end of a string myself. Unfortunately, I do not yet know how to free myself. My situation is a little different right now, but I think I'm figuring out the person in 'control.' It comes down to them not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings by not telling them the cold hard truth. In reality, a person like that does not have your best interests at heart. They have you waiting on the back burner just in case other things don't work out. Or, they just cannot be alone. It sounds like you had developed a relationship which you were very dependent on each other. Do you have other friends? Try investing some time into them. Do you work, or go to school? In other words, maybe distract yourself in order to distance yourself. I've heard these lines she's feeding you before, and I know they are spoken only because the other person doesn't want to be the "bad guy." In the past, I think I've even said to someone, "I don't know what the future holds......" I know for sure I was only trying to soften the blow, and I regret being like that to the person because he couldn't let go. You seem like a really nice, innocent, and vulnerable person, and I think it would make you stronger to not have contact with her if it is causing you this much pain. Also, ask yourself if you truly love her........sometimes you'd be surprised at your answer. What we think is love sometimes ends up being another type of emotion. One more thing, please do not think that because it appears she has chosen another person over you, that means they are better than you, or anything like that. It's her, not you, and don't say the break up is all your fault. There were two of you contributing to the relationship, so each has to take their responsibility in why things didn't work out. Don't take all the blame.... I used to do that too, not good. Again, I'm sorry you're in this spot, it's no picnic.