Don't forget it. You had a reason. I think skysblue's experience is a sort of confirmation. I've just had the 2nd mtg with my new T but I'm remembering past Ts & wish I had managed some sort of closure with those when the ending was a rupture, unplanned.

Thanks for the idea of the pretense. I'm going to try writing to the one whose lost I still grieve most. Can't hurt, right?

Quite the contrary, in fact.

Roadrunner