I guess I don't have a good answer to your question, but maybe if enough people respond we can get a consensus. I am shocked each and every time I meet someone who has a good relationship with their parents. I used to assume that everyone was being treated at home the same way I was, and even though I understand now that my home life was extreme and illegal, emotionally I still can't believe that other families aren't violent and scary. I think that as far as the custody cases, it's an example of a few bad people ruining it for other fathers who want to take care of their children. Also, the really bad parenting examples are publicized while good parents never make the news.