My T and I talked about something relating to this recently....and how those old tapes keep playing in current situations...and how I need to see that the words just don't fit for me. Even if I believe them to the core of my being, I need to try to step out of that place and see for myself...We cannot be what others put on us.
I know it's hard to accept when it's someone in a caregiver role. My parents were physically and emotionally abusive to me when I was growing up....and I am trying to work through those feelings of being worthless, insignificant, ugly, disgusting...I am trying to separate myself from those words just enough to try to see if they really fit.
It's not an easy task....and I haven't successfully worked through it yet...just wanted to share what I've been learning about that so far, in case it's useful....
Know that you are not alone, and it is SUCH a struggle...
((( HUGS )))