Thanks everyone for the great feedback. I haven't figured out how to receive notifications via email so I didn't know anyone had replied until I just checked.

On Wed we talked briefly (he was drunk) and he asked that we wait until the weekend to talk. I texted him on Thursday and asked why we have to wait until the weekend to talk. He replied on Fri, "because I'm really busy and some people don't respect me time...". Wow. I didn't respond, so a few hours later he texted me and said "now is a good time if you want to talk". I didn't call which for me is a huge victory. I also didn't want him to know that once again I had no plans on a Friday night. It feels like I'm playing a game, but I hate that everything is always on his terms. I suppose I need to talk to him about the miscarriage at some point. There isn't really anything to say.... he wasn't available when I was going through it, so why should I care that he's now "making time" to talk about it. Of course I shouldn't have told him via text, but come on... have some perspective on the situation buddy.

So... I'm not ready to walk away completely yet, but I need to send a message that I can't be treated this way. I think I mentioned that my therapist thinks he's a narcissist. Is it common for narcissists to be misdiagnosed with BPD or is it just that narcissism can be a part of BPD?