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Originally Posted by snowgoose
...I had recently reconnected with a bunch of people from highschool. I am 57 so it goes back away. Highschool was one of the best times in my life... Like you guys it just made me feel horrible to compare our lives. I should have been where they are and feel so much shame for how far off the mark I am. I had to get off before they found me out...
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This is exactly why -- though I debated it -- I never did contact any of them. Like you, it was one of the best times of my life (had actual friends!
), so it was tempting, you know? But. We were all on the same basic trajectory (v. good). Guess who never got anywhere? And I couldn't bear the thought of having to explain why I failed so spectacularly, you know? There was one guy (a h.s. friend, and briefly, BF) that I had learned has BP, and that one was the most tempting (I have BP too). Someone that might understand, and not judge. He got derailed in college being hospitalized in a manic episode. I got derailed by a massive depression that rendered me non-functional. Don't know if he got back on track or not (I didn't), but how much easier it would be to be able to say that, you know? And I really
can't tell my story w/o divulging it. (I did ultimately not contact... it was near the time I quit FB altogether.)
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Originally Posted by birdnesthair
.. I find people use it as the first port of call for contact now, forget ringing or texting someone.. just write on someones wall or send them a PM...
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First? ONLY! This was a biggie for me too. The "best" part was basically being called ridiculous and out of step for not accepting that it was all I was going to get. They couldn't be bothered with anything of more substance, and said so outright. Way to make someone feel like they matter...
Mind you, I only had about 15 people on there, so it's not as if we're talking far-flung barely-knows(!) Do I really need that? Emphatically, NO. I struggle enough with depression and self-esteem as it is.
You all brought up a lot of the problems I had with it. I DID delete acount. Over a year ago. And NEVER looked back.