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Originally Posted by kaliope
The advantage of seeing old T is that she has your whole CSA history and could more quickly resolve the issues you are dealing with at the moment.
the disadvantage of going to marriage T for individual counseling is this would alter the balance of the relationship she has with you. would your husband begin questioning if she is on your side more because she knows you better, sees you more. gives you special treatment becuase you are going thru difficult issues. it is something that you have to consider.
maybe you could talk to marriage T about your feelings regarding this matter and she can help you sort out what would be best for you.
Good luck... Hugs.  |
I don't think there would be a problem with a balance in the relationship of marriage t being my individual t. My husband and I have both been in the hot seat with the marriage T.
I don't think it would be an issue for my husband. We are doing really well in marriage T and he has mentioned that he doesn't think I'm done with past CSA. He suggested me going back to old T or the marriage T if I wanted to.
In some way I don't know if it's communication style or just dumb luck but I feel like the marriage T was able to connect with me on a more direct level than the old T.
I think I'm going to call the marriage T to ask her opinion or wait till the next marriage therapy appt to discuss.
Something to think about for now. Thank you for posting your thoughts.