Let me just first apologize for the length... I hope you will read and offer some advice because I am lost.
My husband and I started dating in March of this year...we are both in our 40's...and we knew each other in highschool. We immediately felt a connection and fell in love. Within a 3months he asked me to marry him, I said yes...we were so happy. Always together, very physical and communicated our love for each other constantly...talked excitedly about our future together and he wrote me sweet love songs and sent me love songs in emails. It was pretty close to perfect!! So, on his suggestion we decided not to wait to get married and we got married 2 months later. The week of the wedding he confided to me that he had suffered from anxiety and depression and had thoughts of suicide which put him in a mental hospital for a few weeks in Jan...he said it was situational depression caused by his terrible previous marriage and guilt over not staying for his children. He was taking medication but felt he didn't need them any more so he was started on being weened off them by his doctor that week.
We didn't move in together right away because we both had leases on homes and we wanted to buy a house together. We didn't want move 3 times in one year. Anyway, I noticed that gradually he became less talkative and sullen..then one day he snapped at me over something ridiculous which turned into a huge fight...he started never wanting to come to my house....I had to come to him. Never wanted to go out and do anything either. He became impossible to communicate with...very slow responses and would never look right at me. He had sleep issues too. Falling asleep suddenly, or waking up at odd hours and not being able to go back to sleep. He was also very negative and would make things seem worse than what they really were. Simple things I would say seemed to have a devastatingly negative effect on him. He wasn't like that every minute tho or every day....it would go in spurts, 4 days at a time he acted that way maybe. We would talk and things would be ok. The rest of the time he was always telling me he loved me, he needed me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me...very very loving. Anyway, His house sold...so he had to move in with me in Nov. I noticed he was very anxious and seemed withdrawn more right before and in the first week he moved in. Then he started sleeping a lot...crying and just looked awful...we finally realized he was depressed...slowly developing over the months..and he was hitting bottom. So he moved out and I was devastated and sad. I love this man with all my heart and want a life with him. It was hard, but he felt it would help him and so did I. We were going to work through it. he loved me more than life and we could get through this. he would get back on his meds (realizing this was severe depression, not situational) and we would give it time. We continued as we had before..just not living together. Still loving and sweet, he just seemed down most of the time and tired. He came to stay the night a few weeks later and it was wonderful...we had a great night and I felt closer to him than ever, he said the same thing....said he never loved me more than now. The next day..he was so cold, no emotions really. Then the next day, he called and told me his heart just wasn't in it. WHAT? He had never expressed that at any moment. He said he doesn't understand why but he just doesn't feel that he loves me anymore. I am crushed. I don't know what to do. He doesn't call or contact me. He has respionded to my texts and calls, but very brief and unemotional. he says he wants to be alone and he doesn't miss me..so he says he must not love me. Is this the depression talking?? The meds (ssri's)??? Or did he really just lose his love for me overnight??? If its the depression...will he realize he loves me when the medication helps him to feel better?? I am so lost... We are married..do I walk away?? Any response appreciated...