Yes, I definitely see where you are coming from. It is great when we can match up the old fears with how they have unconsciously been affecting us now so we can start working to put them behind us.

Have you ever made friends with an inanimate object like a doorway? You should try that, name a doorway in your home and sit on the floor with your back resting against it and talk to it, maybe get some water colors or children's washable crayons, etc. and do a little decorating of it? Tame it in other words, make it your own and a friend and that could help you with all of them. I wrote a children's story once for a class, we had to pick and use 5 words from a list in the story and one I chose was elevator and I made all my words (they were nouns/objects) animated, they were in a department store and the elevator I named "Otis" and now, whenever I get in an elevator, especially one made by them, I feel like they're friends. In the story, Otis, the elevator trapped a thief so he could be caught by the authorities.