Hi Beana,
Narcissist sounds about right. My experience and what I've read are that we are 'people pleasers'. We bend over backwards for people even if they abuse us - just to avoid rejection and abandonment. He sounds like he doesn't really care if you call or not. Sounds like he could take it or leave it. And he is most definitely NOT a people pleaser. I have incredible empathy for others. It appears you do too. He obviously doesn't know what the word means. Why would he get diagnosed BPD? Well, some BPDs act out, ie: going into a rage over the smallest things because it triggers a horrible memory. Maybe he's an acting-out type. Or he could have PTSD. I had a similar experience to yours with a guy who most definitely had that. Hmmm. Maybe that's the link. There's this thing called complex PTSD or C-PTSD. It is like PTSD except that the trauma is ongoing and recurring. It has been suggested that BPD be renamed C-PTSD. That makes a lot of sense to me. Lots of mini ongoing traumas which play out time and time again over a lifetime with all your significant relationships.

Anyway, this is all starting to sound a little like alphabet soup. Bottom line - steer clear of this guy. He will destroy you.