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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
...mad pride...
... Not saying Psychiatry is evil per se, but take profit driven industry, add incompetent people working for it and throw vulnerable people in it.... and you have mess in making.
Maybe we all are different for reason.... it's just about finding out place in the world. I wish more people were understanding of this. Or maybe (and I plead guilty on this account) if we all weren't creating some artificial and shared "normal" and were more ourselves.... we could breathe freer. Your thoughts? Ideas, experiences, whatnot?
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I'm sure you know we often are on different planes in many regards (which, hey, that's what makes the world go 'round as they say, right? 
), but I think it's as good a time as any to mention that I'm totally cool with that (in case I've left you with the wrong impression, because I probably have). I am a HUGE believer in people being self-determinate. To the point of having extremely unpopular views on some things related to that. Corallary to that, I do not believe in pushing an agenda or unbiddedly telling people what they should do -- which many people found disconcerting in my parenting(!) I can listen and share my experience, but ultimately, it's his life. But wow, have I digressed. Onto the thoughts!
"Mad pride". I like this. Our brains are wired the way they are wired, so why should we be ashamed of it? (I certainly don't run around telling people I've got BP, because, yes, people can be very judgemental and ignorant. But INSIDE? It is what it is. Huge pain, but I've also had benefits of this wiring which have provided the only real satisfactions I have of myself. So pride. Why not?)
On the second, personally, I think ANY time people are involved, it is a mess in the making(!) Imperfection is the nature of existance. There are no exceptions. Living the realities of this is as exasperating to me as to anyone, but realizing this has come to help me be more understanding and accepting and let go of all sorts of unrealistic expectations. It's simply how the varied aspects of human nature play out for better or worse. Took awhile, lol, but it has saved me a lot of grief. Everyone (and definitely any group endeavor/institution) is flawed. In individuals, I often find this endearing. Far more relatable, that's for sure(!) For instance, how people often view celebrities (of any sort) and are disappointed and even damning when something comes to knowledge that is less than the unrealistic expectations/paragon status people put on them. My primary "idol" was not perfect for sure. To me, the good and the bad are hopelessly endearing, because they are deeply relatable to me. This may seem to have strayed a bit, but it's all part of the same mindset to me.
"Creating artificial "normal""... I can be guilty of this, but more often than not, I'm not. (After people get to know me a bit usually.) Mostly because being "normal" is not my nature. I don't even realize I'm doing it because it has always been my nature. Sometimes it amuses people (or frightens them -- I do try to avoid that), but nearly always perplexes them. "Where's she gone now? What is she on about?". The blank look, the avoidance (unpredictability unsettles them), has definitely caused pain, but I do remember a point where I had tried to fit in too much, and was miserable. It led to a conscious moment of thinking, "Yes, a lot of people have rejected me over the years because they think I'm weird, but it's who I am, and if my company is ever enjoyed it is when I'm being goofy, so I might as well just be myself. I'm odd, that's ok, and anyone who doesn't like that can just f*** off!" Works for me as well as anything else ever has. 