People tend to think of addiction as an isolated problem. For example, you talk about cocaine and alcohol being his “drug of choice” …right… well what choice?

He didn’t sit down one day and say on the one hand, the advantage of this is that I can get intoxicated. On the other hand, I will lose huge amounts of money, the respect of my wife and friends, the ability to be a good role model to my child, possibly my driver’s license, possibly my job…blah blah blah… the list goes on and on.

He just started using. He just started drinking. It triggered a reward center in his brain and he did not have the self control to say no and he was too compulsive about it to stop.

Saying that he quit cocaine and alcohol is like saying he quit chemotherapy. What about the problem that led him to cocaine and alcohol in the first place? What about the problem with his thinking, with his self discipline and his ability to conduct a realistic analysis of the problems versus the benefit? Did he fix that?

Maybe now his “drug of choice” is naked girls.

I could be completely wrong about that, but I remain convinced of what I said earlier. The disease is the thought process. The “drug of choice” is only a symptom.