i am one of "those women" (the room goes silent, mouths drop open after the initial gasp, eyes are open wide in either horror or another look previously undefined)

what's wrong with me? geez...my dr's could give you a whole list of stuff...asthma, kidneys, ptsd...etc.

but as far as why i don't need/want a mate right now..let's see...i travel to the places i want to. do the things i want when i get there. don't need to coordinate things with someone else. eat where i want. & oh god...i enjoy it.

i live alone. my house is my place. if it's clean (well it's a miracle) well that's ok, if not..that's ok too. if i have a great tv same, if not you get the idea..currently there is no tv. by choice.

i am comfortable by myself...i don't get lonely...i go out with people..so it's not that i sit home alone all the time..most days i am out enjoying the company of others...i would just as soon not bring them home. i enjoy having company over for dinners, etc..i love to cook for them.

so...what is there to understand? i am happy..this is the lifestyle i enjoy, i like. i don't question your lifestyle..should i ask if you are happy? etc. who is to say what is the norm, or who is right?

i have found my sense of peace. not everyone needs to get married, make babies etc. that certainly is something i could do but don;'t want too..

thuis life works for me (& i guess your sister too) so that is a good thing...my theory is let's not fix what ain't broke...there must be other things you can worry about.