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Originally Posted by kaliope
I have been single for over nine years, havent dated or even really looked at another man. I could say I would be content to stay this way the rest of my life but I would also be open to the right kind of relationship if it came around. But the two long term relationships I have had were pretty bad.
I really like that I can cook (or not) when I feel like it. I can watch whatever I want on TV and there is no tv in the bed room. That I can rock myself to sleep at night. That I can leave my stuff lying about, that my space is mine. That I dont have to put somebody elses needs before my own. I can go to bed anytime I want to. that i only have to live life for myself.
it is very nice not to have to make decisions based on the needs of another in the home. everything is about me and my own happiness. after 20 years of living in fear of doing something that would displease my mate it is so cool to finally jsut be able to relax and do things my way. my life is very simple and uncomplicated now. i like it just fine this way.
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Kaliope - you sound more like my sister reading your post.
She also had some really bad relationships where the guys were big self centered jerks who basically wanted her to serve them. If I was in a relationship like that with every man I met I would be the same way.
My relationship with my husband is pretty free where I don't need his permission or do things and he doesn't expect me to serve him like a maid. My sister tells me I got it good because my type of relationship is rare. I don't know how the dating scene is these days but if that's the case, then that is really bad. I wouldn't give up my freedom to serve anyone too if that is what they wanted you to do.