The biggest thing for me was learning to stay in the present. My life (& T sessions) became focused on what I am doing. The temptation, in trying to move beyond the painful past, was to jump to the future & dwell in the "will be (perfect)."

That, I learned, was even a bigger trap. I don't want to start filling tomorrows that aren't even here with expectations, which probably won't come to be anyway. Neither the past nor the future has any reality.

I had to learn to live in the now. Comparatively, now is boring, demanding, and hard work. But you can do it!