Ugh...visit keeps getting extended. It started out as a one month visit and, for business reasons, it will probably be closer to two months. I do stay over there about once a week, but we've really lost a lot of the intimacy of the relationship as a result...I'm not talking about sexual intimacy but more of just plain old "couple" intimacy. I think this is because we're never really alone and the normal flow of our activities are greatly interruped. The other thing that concerns me is that the boyfriend smokes pot (I don't; I've never even tried it), and he smokes a lot more with his friend/business partner in the house. If it were only a short visit, then no big deal, but at almost two months, I'm concerned that this will become a pattern that will be hard to break after the visit is over. He used to smoke a little bit at night (a few puffs off a joint) to help him sleep. There really wasn't even that much of a change in his personality; he just seemed to relax and sleep better. But, with the friend/partner, he actually seems to get stoned now...Even though I only come over once a week, he doesn't seem to be able to not smoke when I'm there...so, our visits are really affected by this...There is no exact end date in sight....it's an open-ended plane ticket...I'm trying to be patient, but it's very frustrating! I keep trying to be patient as the stress that has been making him smoke more is related to the business and this visit could be helpful but he just feels very far away from me emotionally at this point...I'm worried that we may not be able to "snap back into place".....